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I'm Too Busy To Talk

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I'm Too Busy To Talk

One of the simplest yet most profound correlations I observe is between people's patterns, practices of communication and literally everything else. 

For example, do you know someone who is important to you yet they disappear for weeks or months with no explanation? You try to reconnect but get little response? I've heard some people call this going dark. This is a form of relationship sabotage. Being busy as a reason is pure bullcrap. It takes 10 seconds to communicate a response like "busy now, lets connect Tuesday" or "I need alone time now".

Another classic pattern is one of withholding. You or they withhold thoughts or feelings for fear that the other will be offended, become angry and maybe want to end the relationship. This is devastating and is the single most frequent cause of relationships ending, not just romantic ones but friendships and professional relationships like coaching, counseling, teaching, mentoring. Withholding is absolute sabotage. 

In a coaching or mentoring relationship these patterns are so destructive that they invariably cause the "client" to become resentful, demonize their coach even while the coach is doing everything in their power to support the individual. Sound familiar?

Fortunately, there are several powerful and elegant solutions to these patterns but they require a willingness and a commitment from all parties to be responsible and address the issues that are present. They require a willingness to deal responsibly with your feelings and stop operating as a victim. When there's a long standing pattern of victimization, it can take time and inner work to shift it.

If you'd like to learn more about this, I invite you to email me at howard@lifecraftingprogram.com and place the word "communication" in the subject line, or join our Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/lifecrafting. These are the kinds of transformational tools we share in our community.

The bottom line here is to treat each person in your life like the sacred treasure that they are. How you deal with them is how you deal with everything else. If you want make changes, improvements in your life a great place to start is with your relationships.

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Howard Sambol is the creator of the Life Crafting program which guides you to clarify your gifts and passions, then craft an ideal business and make money doing what you love.

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