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17
Jul
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Moving Beyond The Lone Ranger Syndrome

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Moving Beyond The Lone Ranger Syndrome


I’m writing today about something I encounter a lot with people who say they want things to change yet remain stuck.

You may notice that this individual will often remain separate from people and resources which can be pivotal factors for creating the very breakthrough they want. For reasons which are rarely examined, they seem determined to do it all themselves.

I call this pattern The Lone Ranger Syndrome.

Does this describe what is happening for you now?

Are you attempting to solve your most challenging problems on your own because you believe that no one is willing or able to help you? Or, perhaps you believe that asking for assistance is an admission of defeat and proves you are inadequate? This is actually a commonly held belief.

If this is happening for you, don’t despair. There is a solution available. It is possible for you to move beyond the lone ranger syndrome. My aim here is to open a new window of possibility for you, one that could actually be life changing in many ways.

Subconscious Factors
If you have been tenaciously yet unknowingly keeping yourself separate from sources of real support and empowerment while continuing to persist with the same actions that aren’t working, you can be pretty sure that there is a some part of you committed to maintaining the status quo.

Please understand that this is not logical. You may wholeheartedly believe you are committed to creating change but there are other, subconscious forces which have some different ideas and agendas.

While you may feel that you really want change, you may in fact have a greater need for things to remain the same. This may be shocking but once embraced, it can be very emancipating.

Key Principle
When your desire for something is greater than your fear or resistance to change, your desires are going to be realized. It may take a while, but it will happen.

When your fear, resistance or limiting beliefs are stronger than your desire, you will likely remain stuck and oftentimes you will not know why. Your conscious mind will likely make up a story about it, like it’s the economy, but that is rarely the real reason change isn’t happening.

You may in fact be like the proverbial hamster, spinning on his wheel but not getting anywhere. You may even be proud of how hard you are working. Sound familiar?

What's The Solution?
In a phrase, Empowering Partnership. I’m not talking about partnering with just anybody. I am referring to partnership with those people who are already accessible to you (by virtue of the fact that you are reading this) with whom genuine empowerment and breakthroughs are possible.

These are the kinds of people who will tell you the truth which may sometimes be hard to hear yet emancipating at the same time.

These are the kinds of people who bring the qualities of compassion and love into your internal conversation with yourself that has been lacking.

This is a very important because many lone ranger types keep themselves stuck by means of a continual barrage of negative, critical self talk. Breaking free of this will often shake you loose from the trance of self judgement and into a new conversation of appreciation and gratitude.

Isn’t it nice to know that there isn’t anything “wrong” with you and that your desired breakthrough lies in letting yourself win? It may take a while to learn this skill, but it is doable.

Have you noticed that when breakthroughs happen, they are virtually always in the context of relationship, usually accompanied by some meaningful conversation with someone who cares and wants you to see something you haven’t been seeing?

No matter how you slice it, empowering relationship is the key antidote to the Lone Ranger Syndrome. This is the most important aspect of our Career Crafting community. We offer many ways for you to become involved and to get the specific support you need to create the results you want.

Your challenge is that of reaching out and making contact regardless how stong the pull towards isolation and implosion

Money and the Lone Ranger Syndrome
The fearful voice inside you may tell you that you cannot afford coaching so you had better just keep doing the same things even though they aren’t working. That part of you may be in despair and also concerned with security at the same time.

The self deception here is sustained by not recognizing the substantial “cost” of remaining alone without the support system you need. The cost is at every level — physical, emotional, financial, spiritual and affects your quality of life profoundly.

Once people become truly open to empowering partnership and support, they invariably realize that it was never about money. Many get the support they need without spending a dime. Others get the support they need at a cost so low, that it is insignificant. Others make an investment in themselves and reap incredible rewards in the process.

The bottom line here is that money issues are really relationship issues in disguise. Open yourself up to the myriad of possibilities with empowering partnership and your money challenges will go away.

Ask yourself: Why doesn’t a bird worry about finding food each day? Maybe it is because the bird trusts the universe to provide what it needs. The bird has not acquired limiting beliefs about its needs not being met.

Consider someone who is walking around with a pair of worn out shoes that are uncomfortable and look horrible. When they finally give themselves permission to get the new shoes they want and need, they feel great about themselves. What kind of new shoes will make the key difference in your life right now?

The Right Time is Now
We are at the beginning of a new year filled with fresh possibilities and opportunities. It is the perfect time to exit your safe cocoon and come into the sunlight with other like minded people who would love to get to know you and share knowledge and gifts.

It is time to open yourself up to receiving that form of love that YOU personally need right now. Whatever it is, there are people who are available and ready as soon as you are ready to receive it.

How Can You Get Started?
It’s easy. Your first step in moving beyond the lone ranger syndrome is to connect with a powerful network and community such as Life Crafting.

The best way to do that is with our complimentary Strategy Session which will allow you to get clear where you're at now and create a solid plan for the future. All the details and signup form is at http://bit.ly/1efVyRU. I look forward to welcoming you to our community and help you make the alliances you need for your future.

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15
Jul
0

The True Nature of Coaching: Part 2

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In this Part 2 segment, I’m going to share some more super powerful benefits of coaching. 

Passion, Purpose and Commitment
A skilled coach is able to help you clarify your purpose, passion and commitments in unique and powerful ways. When you're able to identify what you truly want, you become on fire and you’re able to accomplish extraordinary things. 

From this place, motivation is sustainable because it comes from within. You're heart is in it all the way. When was the last time if ever you felt this way about your life or business?

A skilled coach can elicit your vision of the future and guide you to create this vision as real for yourself now. When you get in touch with your vision, you ignite your greatest creative power.

The more emotionally connected you are with your vision, the more you attract the people, situations and opportunities allowing your vision to be realized.

Marketing and Sales Success
The foundation to all your success in the world is communication. A skilled coach will empower you to expand your relationship building skills and create the key alliances that will make the critical difference for you. A coach will help you to increase your sales results and reach your financial goals directly impacting your quality of life!

Getting Out Of Your Comfort Zone
Skilled coaches instinctively know how to empower you beyond your comfort zone where you tend to play it safe. You learn to challenge yourself and venture into new territories which allows unexpected opportunities to emerge. You see a more expansive landscape beyond what you can see on your own.

Shifting Your Beliefs
The most significant aspect of your reality map is your beliefs. Over time, the experiences arising from these beliefs reinforces them.You soon forget that you have the belief yet it continues to operate behind the scenes defining and limiting the life experiences you can have.

A skilled coach trained in the BeliefCloset method will help you identify the beliefs holding you back and transform them. This BeliefCloset method is accessible to all our Life Crafting Clients. 

Okay, Coaching is a Good Thing, Now What?
By now, you have hopefully gotten the idea that having a coach is a good thing especially if you want to achieve some important goals or life vision.

How Can You Get Started?
To get all the many benefits of a coaching relationship I mentioned and many more, your most important first step is our complimentary Strategy Session. All the details and signup are at lifecraftingprogram.com/strategysession.

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08
Jul
0

The True Nature of Coaching: Part 1

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Most people these days are familiar with coaching in one context or another. At the very least, you're familiar with coaching in sports.

If you've been in business or professional circles, you've also probably heard of life, career or business coaching, but what is coaching, really? There are many common misconceptions. Below are some of them.

 

 

 

Some people believe that coaching is:

  • giving advice on how to do something better
  • a motivational speech or pep talk to an individual or a team so they can win the championship
  • a form of hand holding for when someone is going through a time of distress or challenge, i.e. a way to boost someone up after life has beaten them down
  • another name for counseling or therapy in which the client is guided to express their feelings about the past and thereby resolve the blocks and issues in their life.

The truth is that these things have little to do with what coaching is about. Over the years, I've learned that few people really understand what coaching is about and this even includes people who use the term quite a bit. My aim here is to clarify the true nature, depth and power of the coaching relationship. 


If you've ever spoken to someone whose life has changed from utilizing a coach, you have some idea what I'm speaking about.

Here's the bottom line: If you want to create an extraordinary life and achieve your full potential, utilizing a skilled coach is a virtual necessity. You will soon discover is that coaching is far more accessible and affordable than you might have believed.


Empowerment
Before we can capture the essence of coaching, we need to introduce and define the term empowerment. What does it mean to empower someone? Unfortunately, you will not get very far looking up this word in dictionary because dictionary definitions of this term tend to be about 200 years out of date. Here's our working definition.

To Empower is to spark or ignite (as a catalyst) a person's own power so they can be, do or have whatever they want in their life. Empowerment has the effect of naturally activating a person's already existing resourcefulness, creativity, skill and confidence.

Empowerment is very different from helping, saving or rescuing. In a relationship of empowerment, the guide or coach is acting as a catalyst, a partner in discovery, a compassionate, non judgemental friend and a committed listener able to reflect your promises, commitments, values, standards, ideals, beliefs and life vision. They guide you to make the shifts you want to make.

Empowering relationships can be simple and innocent. They can also be substantive and deep. They are characterized by a foundation of caring, respect and unconditional positive regard.

Please take a moment to reflect on a past or present relationship with this quality. Maybe it was the positive influence of a good friend or teacher. The relationship may have felt special, even pivotal yet it may have seemed to be the result of coincidence. What if... you could create empowering relationships intentionally?

Its possible that the idea of a relationship based on empowerment may be new and will take some to learn and practice. That's okay. The important thing to know is that these skills can be learned and the benefits are very far reaching. In fact, once you have had a taste of what this is like, it is unlikely you'll settle for anything less in the future.

What is Coaching?
Coaching is a dynamic and empowering relationship in which the coach empowers the client to win at whatever games in life they are playing.

I am deliberately using the game metaphor here to make a point. We often have a tendency to get serious about the things that are important to us and in so doing we get a bit heavy. Part of good coaching is helping you lighten up, take things less seriously, and have more fun. As a result, you accomplish more too.

What do I mean by winning? Is there a competition? No! Im using the word winning here to simply represent getting the result or outcome you want. Coaching is result focused. There's a process of growth, but the emphasis is on outcomes.

The desired outcome will vary greatly. For some, it is success with a job, career or business. For others, the focus might be on relationships, family or health or it could also involve changes in emotional patterns, beliefs or spiritual dimensions of life. Coaching can encompass any area and is limited only by what you believe it can be.

How Will Having a Coach be Beneficial?
There are many ways in which a skilled coach can have a profound impact on your life. In part 2 of this blog series, I will share some of the major areas in which coaching relationships have extraordinary impact. By relating these to what is presently happening now, you'll get some clues as to how a coach will be valuable at this time.

Stay tuned and please share!

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25
Jun
0

The Power of Your Words

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Are you an entrepreneur communicating about your product based on your own beliefs and impressions of what will reach your target market?

One of the most costly mistakes many entrepreneurs make is using language that seems reasonable to them but which doesn't create the impact they want.

This often happens because business owners become so enamored with their services, talents and gifts that they wind up paying little attention to how it is landing with their target audience.

The message here is simple: Do NOT underestimate the power of your words! In this emotionally stirring video, you will get a strong dose of this lesson. Please share.

 

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20
May
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Is Your Chain Breaking?

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Most everyone knows that a chain is only as strong as the weakest link. Yet, most of the time we don't bother reflecting how and why our "chain" (method, system, approach) for doing something is breaking down, i.e. just not working. 

When this occurs and you aren't able to pinpoint the weak links (problem areas), do you simply repeat the same pattern and continue to get the same result?

Do you find yourself becoming increasingly frustrated, demoralized to the point where you lose your motivation and sometimes even give up?

Do you assume that because you haven't been able to resolve your situation, that the best you can do is accept it and become resigned to a diminished outcome and quality of life?

Have you may created a convincing argument for why this reduced outcome is the best that can be achieved (under the circumstances) despite the fact that you've never really opened yourself to an alternate ideas and solutions?

In my experience over many decades, I found that most people prefer to conclude change is not possible rather than opening themselves up to a deeper inquiry and to receiving support to resolve their issue.

Is there some area of your life right now that isn't progressing the way you'd like despite a huge effort and commitment on your part?

What if..

  • Your situation or challenge can be resolved by clarifying exactly where the breakdown is happening and identifying a solution or remedy. 
  • There are others with a different perspective for whom your "problem" is easily solvable?

As an example a man came to be with a case of severe stage fright that he lived with for many years. It prevented him from playing his guitar with groups of people. We were able to resolve his issue in less than 30 minutes using a simple method.

If you're the type of person who insists on solving everything by yourself, you may never discover and that you can have what you want by just changing one item or adding one missing puzzle piece. I call this insistence on solving every problem by yourself, The "Lone Ranger Syndrome". I view this as the most severe form of self-sabotage possible.

In most instances it comes down to a "need to be right." What would you prefer be right about? That your problem is unsolvable or that a different approach can work better? Whatever you believe will become your truth, so it is your choice what you want to be right about.

In Life Crafting, we utilize a powerful collaborative model for co-creation and problem solving which allows breakthroughs to happen frequently and easily.

What breakthrough would you like to have? Would you like to make money doing what you love? Do you believe it is possible? Are you willing to give up being right that it is not possible for you? Are you willing to commit to finding a real solution?

If yes, we're here to help. The Life Crafting Strategy Session is an ideal resource for gaining insights on your situation. You will walk away with new strategies to apply. There is no cost for the session as long as you're sincere and open to a possible relationship. 

Isn't it time for you to eliminate the weak links in your chain and get what you really want?

 

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